Listening to your emotional wounds

10 June 2020

Whether it is intense solitude for you right now or intense interactions with your loved ones everyday with lesser breathing space, you may find emotional wounds bubbling to the surface every now and then.

Rather than busting these bubbling feelings by distracting yourself with food or entertainment, let them arise to inform you and strengthen you.

When you listen to your wounds, you will come to know yourself even deeper.
While it may be easier to repress if you have been habitually doing so to cope with the stresses of life, it is extremely unhealthy for your overall wellbeing. According to Louise Hay, the author of "Heal Your Life", all physical conditions have an emotional root cause. If you continue to repress and suppress, your body may encounter 'dis-ease'. If you are an emotional eater like me, you can likely gain weight or suffer from poor digestion whenever you turn to stuffing down your emotions. Not cool.


If you are going through emotional rollercoasters during these intense times, be gentle with yourself but also firm in listening. Remain present to your emotions and feelings when you feel them come up, sit or lay down if you have to, let your body experience the waves of energy coursing through and expressing themselves. Set an intention to be curious and observe the energies - is it hot, cold, pulsating, violent, brief…? Does it make you cry or want to scream, or even laugh? Which part of your body does the energy go to and what does it do there? Does your heart constrict or beat faster and do you perspire?


What are the thoughts that accompany them?
Do the thoughts come before, during or after?
Do they make you even more emotional?
What insights do you have from listening to your thoughts?
What are your triggers?
Do you know the root cause of your wound?
Can you define your actual emotions? I have found for myself that, the clearer I am about my actual emotion, the better I understand what my needs, desires and motivations are, and what led to the wounding. Perhaps the emotions wheel below may help.


Can you forgive the situation? The supposed perpetrator? The people involved? Yourself?

It's important to exercise discernment but not judge.

Forgiveness is for your own peace of mind.It is better to accept what has already happened and let go of the energetic charge around it instead of letting it continue to fester within your mind and disturb your overall wellbeing.

More importantly, what have you learnt about yourself in this experience?

What did your emotions inform you about desires, motivations and wounds?

How have you given your power away? To whom?

What can you choose to think, say or do in future should similar incidents happen?

Make a commitment to yourself to reclaim your power.

Treasure what these wounds have taught you about your strengths and weaknesses.

Know that where you fall is also where you grow.